A Letter To The Boys

Many women of all ages have experienced heartbreak. Big or small, we have felt it and it hurts like hell.

I believe the bigger issue attached to this heartache is the life changing moment where our "normal" gets taken from us. We go day to day emotionally invested in everything we do.

Sorry boys. Its how we operate.

A simple relationship to men can become a future for a woman. We celebrate every month anniversary with the idea that we are one step closer to marriage, children and all these exciting things to come in our lives. Now, fellas....before you get freaked out or flatter yourselves too much, this has more to do with us as human beings and less about your smolder or chiseled biceps. Relax.

We are just emotional and we put these emotions (happy, sad, loved) into everything that we do.

So...

We are in a relationship with you, you are our "normal". We laugh with you, cry with you, make memories with you, grow with you, you are our "normal". For months or maybe even years and then this is gone.

We stop knowing who you are.

We stop laughing.

We stop making memories.

We stop talking.

Our "normal" is now ruined.

This makes us uncomfortable because the one thing we could count on in our crazy lives, the one thing we knew we could control is that at the end of every crazy day we had you to come home to, or cry to, or FaceTime, or kiss or hug or whatever this may be.

When our "normal" is taken from us, we freak out and everything seems chaotic.

This comes in many forms.

The words you once uttered to us, reassuring us that you'd never break our hearts and now our hearts are broken.

The girl we never had to worry about that is not popping up on your phone, makes us doubt why we weren't good enough.

The distance you put in between us when you're stressed, it isn't normal and we get scared.

When our "normal" is messed with, we simply just break.

With time there is recovery and that is something that needs to be understood. Broken things can be fixed it just takes a patient mind to do it.

So Boys...Be Kind and Gracious with our fragile hearts. Understand the impact you have on us and if we take the time to emotionally invest, most times, we mean it, and we're here to stay.

& Ladies, if your normal is broken, remember that with time you will be fixed and your new "normal" will sneak up on you when you least expect it.

XOXO Liv.